The Game, part 1
My "Mystery of Marriage" post spawned some interesting conversations with a few friends. I was chatting with one of them on MSN soon after publishing it to this blog, and after he told me how hysterically funny it was, and how amazingly beautiful and talented I really am (ok, slight paraphrase there), he said, rather cryptically I thought, "Why don't you be more forward?"
"More forward about what?" I asked.
"About guys. If you dig a guy ask him out."
And all this time I'd thought he was sane.
"Are you NUTS?" I said. "Are you SERIOUS?"
"Yep," he said.
Riiiiiiight.
Well, I promised to give the question some careful consideration, possibly even some prayer. It always sounds good to say you are going to pray about something, very holy and spiritual. Well, there are actually a lot of people I know who WOULD pray about it if they said they were going to, and believe me when I say I wish I was a lot more like them than me. I always have good intentions to pray, I firmly believe in the importance of prayer, there are times (which lately are increasing) when I even ENJOY praying. I just kind of...forget to do it occasionally. Or often, as the case may be.
But I am digressing, which by the way is one of my many amazing talents. The point is, I didn't really give it careful thought, nor did I pray about it, because I forgot (which is probably more of a medical condition than a talent).
I'm thinking about it now, though, and here's what I've concluded. My friend is a lunatic (just kidding bees!). I mean, I'm a woman, right? I'm supposed to be mysterious and coy, right? It's my job to give off subliminal signals, and the guy's job to read them (and of course we all know how well guys do THAT) and come chasing after me. It's all part of The Game, after all.
The thing is, I'm getting really fed up with the whole idea of The Game.
In a nutshell, here's what I've learned from The Game: who I am will never be nearly as cool as whatever I project myself to be. My real self is probably pretty lame, so cover her up at all costs.
Well, doesn't that sound fun, kids. Who's up for Monopoly? At least those rules make sense!
I just want to know: Is it possible to not play The Game...and still win?
"More forward about what?" I asked.
"About guys. If you dig a guy ask him out."
And all this time I'd thought he was sane.
"Are you NUTS?" I said. "Are you SERIOUS?"
"Yep," he said.
Riiiiiiight.
Well, I promised to give the question some careful consideration, possibly even some prayer. It always sounds good to say you are going to pray about something, very holy and spiritual. Well, there are actually a lot of people I know who WOULD pray about it if they said they were going to, and believe me when I say I wish I was a lot more like them than me. I always have good intentions to pray, I firmly believe in the importance of prayer, there are times (which lately are increasing) when I even ENJOY praying. I just kind of...forget to do it occasionally. Or often, as the case may be.
But I am digressing, which by the way is one of my many amazing talents. The point is, I didn't really give it careful thought, nor did I pray about it, because I forgot (which is probably more of a medical condition than a talent).
I'm thinking about it now, though, and here's what I've concluded. My friend is a lunatic (just kidding bees!). I mean, I'm a woman, right? I'm supposed to be mysterious and coy, right? It's my job to give off subliminal signals, and the guy's job to read them (and of course we all know how well guys do THAT) and come chasing after me. It's all part of The Game, after all.
The thing is, I'm getting really fed up with the whole idea of The Game.
In a nutshell, here's what I've learned from The Game: who I am will never be nearly as cool as whatever I project myself to be. My real self is probably pretty lame, so cover her up at all costs.
Well, doesn't that sound fun, kids. Who's up for Monopoly? At least those rules make sense!
I just want to know: Is it possible to not play The Game...and still win?
posted by grackyfrogg @ 6:29 PM
5 Comments:
At 10:09 PM ,
Anonymous said...
Way to go your friend.
Taking his advice would be not playing the game... if playing the game hasn't worked, why not try not playing the game. How's that for a sentince?
From my speck of experience as a guy, here's an insight I'll give that applies to at least me... perhaps other guys are like this too. I've never asked a girl out, I've been close, but timing, situations, etc just haven't been right. They probably wanted me to sometimes, but whatever, that isn't the point. The point is that twice I have been asked by girls to either go out on a serious date or consider dating flat out. Whoa! Hold your horses, the /girl/ asked?! Yeah, and I was super honoured by it too. The first time it had to be the girl, I'm homeschooled and she invited me to her public school's prom. I'm all for guys initiating, but I for one think it's great when a girl is forthright and honest. Not as in "Wow, I met you 5 minutes ago, you're incredibly good looking, funny and intelligent, wanna go out?" But why bother with the coy and subliminal messages that are crap and guys like me (while I'm talking about guys like me anyway) aren't going to pick up :-p
Good look picking the reality out of that... it didn't sound as clear on screen as in my head, no surprise there.
Take what you can.
phil
At 2:15 AM ,
Anonymous said...
Well i've heard other perspectives from males an females now, an it looks like each to their own. I don't think there is anyway out of the "game" tho, as if you want a prize you got to be in the compitition. I think not playing the game is just another version of the game... if that makes any sense. I reckon if you really want to go out with someone...just ask them, of course for most people easier said than done. But if your going for that send a signal thing which I guess is the most common try an make it as obvious as possible, you know that extra, extra big smile sort of that Ronald Mcdonald grin, that real feminine walk the one where the hips end up about a foot either side of where they would normally be and the feet cross, maybe wearing Ronald Mcdonald shoes would help. If that don't do it nothing will, Cheers
The Lunatic ;-) .
At 1:24 PM ,
Anonymous said...
lol, yeah, dress up as a clown, that'll win over _any_ male's heart!
At 2:30 PM ,
grackyfrogg said...
well, maybe if his name was bozo! or ronald mcdonald.
At 2:33 PM ,
grackyfrogg said...
by the way, are you saying my feet are big???
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